Understanding and building your personality

I personally think personality is like a dish made with different ingredient, no dish can be identical. Even the slightest difference in an ingredient results in a different taste and different color. Understanding ones personality is not as hard as it sounds, but it's not as easy as it sounds as well. It's all about asking yourself the right questions and trying to figure out the answers for the questions all by yourself.

Some questions can be as vague as 'am I an introvert or an extrovert?' or can be 'what motivates me/ what keeps me going?' or 'how do the people around you affect mood?'. By answering questions of this type you can understand your own personality which on the other hand would help you in all aspects of your life

Identify your environment to understand yourself.

The first thing you might want to change or identify before identifying your own personality is whether you social circle encourage you or motivate you or pass on positive energy or they just simply drain you from your energy.

I personally feel when I'm surrounded by people I am drained, it's not that I'm scared to hang around with people or anything. I'm an extrovert and I always try to speak my mind. But hanging with my social circle makes me feel annoyed when their only intention is to get things done for them. In the case of an introvert he/she is most likely to feel insecure among a group of people as well. So both an introvert and myself both feel uneasy with people who surround us, but it's for different reasons. Some on the other hand would feel lifted when they are among people and more energized. These people are can be considered extroverts.

Do you understand to be understood?

This is the most interesting one from my point of view, solely because even if you were reading this point you sometimes might not realize you do the same most of the times. Think of an instance where you're in an argument, how many times do we think twice before we speak the first work out of anger? How many times do we say sorry even if it was the other person’s mistake? Even if you get into an argument, how many times do we listen to what the other person is saying? If you do, I'm really happy that you do so. But that is a very rare quality. We just blindly attack the other person thinking we are achieving something great, where what we are actually doing is selling our honor and pride. Think about your trait in different situations.

 Ignorance is bliss, when you ignore the right things.

"Ignorance is bliss" when you ignore the right things for the right reasons. If you ignore an argument just because it's of no use or just because it's not going to affect you in anyway then sure it will save you a lot of time and will save your mental state for the rest of the day. If you're in a coffee shop or in some random public place and you see some injustice happening right in front of your eyes and you turn a blind eye thinking 'Ignorance is bliss', my friend you're selling your soul to the devil.

16 bigger-than-life personalities would fit in the Myers-Briggs philosophy.

These are just VERY few ways to identify your personality. You cannot change your personality or identify your personality overnight. It's a step by step process that requires time and patience and most importantly observations. Before you say or do anything in a rush just step back, hold your words and observer how you are reacting and what you are going to say. This would help you understand your personality more in depth. Please feel free to comment below with your techniques to identify yourself/personality that worked for you the best.